Why You Should Keep the Lights On for Nookie
f you are the type to turn off the lights before getting busy with your man, read up!
With all of the messages we receive daily about our appearance, it’s no wonder that so many of us are critical of ourselves. And when you feel insecure about something, your natural inclination is to hide it. Not put it all out there on display!
But that’s exactly what I’m encouraging you to do.
I want you to “do it” in broad daylight…
With the lights on…
Letting him devour your body with his eyes…
Why you might ask?
It’s because men are highly VISUAL creatures. Adding in the ability for him to see how much pleasure he’s giving you sends his brain into sexual overdrive.
Here’s just a few reasons why:
1. Giving him permission to adore and pleasure your body feeds his ego.
Did you know the number one thing that turns a man on is your enthusiasm for sex and how much you enjoy his prowess? Yep, number one. Not how flat your tummy is or the lack of cellulite on your booty.
He wants to feel like he is taking you to the heights of bliss. And if you are too caught up in keeping covered, you can’t possibly surrender to the pleasurable sensations happening. If you refuse certain positions out of insecurity, that definitely affects how he interprets your enthusiasm.
2. Letting him watch himself have sex with you is literally intoxicating.
Two of his senses (three if you are talking dirty and moaning) are involved. Not only does he get to physically feel how amazing the sex is, he gets to watch how amazing it is, too. It’s a double-shot of hot for him. And his brain goes on overdrive releasing all of the amazing feel-good pleasure chemicals that frankly feel insanely incredible. Plus, with the lights on, it’s like his own personal naughty movie.
Especially in positions like doggie style where he has a front-row view of all the action. Or if you strategically place a mirror where he can take in the show. Yowza!
Okay, I get that the idea of putting it all on display sounds scary to some of you reading this. But here is what I want you to remember:
He’s way more focused on enjoying the hot view of sex with you than on counting how many stretch marks you have. Because, hello! Naked woman having sex with him!
Also, if he tells you that you are beautiful…BELIEVE HIM. Don’t list out your flaws or put yourself down. Let him know that his appreciation is well-received.
In my program The Language of Desire, I give you tons of ways to not only feel your sexiest but also to empower you to know exactly how to blow his mind through dirty talk and specific techniques that reach right into his primal sexual brain. Go check it out, you’ll both be happy you did!